EVERY MAN HIS LIFE BUILDER. LOVE BUILDER spiritual happiness.

Our happiness - in our hands, make yourself happy can only be man himself, not someone else.

In most cases, people believe that they are happy - they love it when their own and love them. But the problem often is that not everyone can love, and many just fall in love. Love is, and there comes disappointment, and love over the years, only amplified.

In this basic distinction of love and affection. Therefore, in order to be happy, man must learn to love it. And someone who knows how to love, he will always love, and of course, happy.

In most cases, people believe that they are happy - they love it when their own and love them. But the problem often is that not everyone can love, and many just fall in love. Love is, and there comes disappointment, and love over the years, only amplified. In this basic distinction of love and affection. Therefore, in order to be happy, man must learn to love it. And someone who knows how to love, he will always love, and of course, happy.

While you are not in touch, do not merge together with all life on earth in a moment, and do not understand each one separately, you will see the true face of each, but, still awake to love someone just because he is, you can talk although much of Love, God, Faith, World, etc., you know not what it is.

And they took this man to make the first step towards his own happiness. He understands what love is, that is, it will have the ability to love everyone and everything, but a man can be happy being alone with itself, it is able to love a person, not his actions, he is able to forgive, he can understand. And the one who is happy with himself, will be happy with any person, and also living with them makes happy. So do not look for happiness outside, it is to you most, only the man can make himself happy, not someone else. All of us! Do not forget this golden rule.

And accordingly, a person who is capable of love, and will "attract" luck, love, true friends, his life will be mostly favorable for him of the event. How do we relate to life and people and life and people to us, unless we love them heartily, and not in words, and "false" actions.

Only when a person learns to love, understand and forgive, then one can say that he became aware of the Father in his heart. Only a man can be called that he was on the path of spirituality. Spirituality and love of interrelated values​​, and one can not exist without the other, if there is no love in a man, if he does not suffer in relation to others and can not forgive, there is no spirituality in it, and that he did not do for self, love of the main in his heart to others and to the world.

If a person is not happy with someone, something or your life all the time if he's always complaining to others, or all the time "with a broken heart," or blaming all the time for something yourself, or likes to talk about all the time themselves ("I am, I am, I must, I must, it is my destiny ..." etc., etc.), and even more so if he a perfectionist, there is no God in his heart, he does not know what is love, and he not only can not make himself happy, he also will make those around him miserable, or at least they will feel uncomfortable being around him. So if you want to be happy, you become them, learn to see everything and all that something positive and learn to love just because this man exists. Appreciate the dignity and calmly accept his weaknesses.

But not in any way, you can not turn a blind eye to the shortcomings, they should be aware of and take for granted. Closing your eyes on them - we have been self-deception, and as a result of a fictional love the image and not a real person. Do not forget, we're not perfect, they all have their pluses and minuses - a combination of both time and creates a unique identity of each person.

So be tolerant of the negative qualities of the character of others. Do not try to convert or rehabilitate another man, only he can decide how it be, and you decide what is best for him, only he himself can know. Changing yourself, you change and close, so if you do not like something in someone, do not try to change it, change yourself in relation to this quality or change the behavior of the owl, and eventually that person will also vary in accordance with recent in your changes.

Do not judge a person, and just accept him as he is, and love is such as it is with all of its strengths and weaknesses, and be capable to give freedom to loved ones. Respect their decisions. Be able to support in a difficult situation, but it do not be obsessive, do not take as their property - the same man, he is as free and full personality as you.

This is love, everything else - it just an illusion, just words, this is love - it's action.

You should not blame someone in the events of your life or that your husband or wife do not suit you, or are unable to make you happy, but before you moved in together it was supposedly good. In any relationship, both are always responsible. And if you do not like something in your life or your earthly half, then take a look at the situation differently, find in it something positive, and all you can always find positive things, or if you can not or do not want to see the situation for different reasons, on the other, then change it. Radically change their lives or rasstantes with those who disturb you, but never "ship" around their problems.

Complaining all the time, and seeking sympathy, you agree not solve the situation, and wallow in it, it pulls you, and the more you continue to complain, the more complicated then you solve their problems. In addition, you get used to the problems and unconsciously, already looking for them, create them from scratch. You already do not imagine his life without problems, without misery, without diseases, without failure. And you just become addicted to the constant feeling of sympathy for the victim and others.Therefore, or to decide to active measures to solve their problems or situation, or be silent, never complain. Everything that happens to you and in your life - it's all done with your hands, and no one to blame, only you, so do not complain. Just do not blame yourself, and when crowded in this situation or in a wrong choice: when a person realizes that he has done that is not correct, Mr. fellow, but he must also be changed, or all active actions, or even silent about their fault, since it is still striving to be the victim.

For such a person is just like a victim of someone or a victim of its own mistakes. And all that he wants to change or allegedly aware of the consequences of their actions - it's all just in words, it's just all a game with your own subconscious and involvement in the game around. While a person does not take any active steps to rectify their actions, solve problems, etc. Do not even worth a listen - it's just simply an ordinary least draw attention to yourself or energy vampirism, as this is done and in order to achieve something desired (manipulation).

It is natural that each of us at least once in their lives were hard times. Does not happen to a human life was all rosy, but here are relevant to the problem situations are different. Some people just want to understand the cause of what happened and correct the situation or solve a problem, others humble themselves and just start to drift and as a result of not only problems are not solved, and compounded. And as a result of such a person starts to complain all the time, or blame themselves, trying to evoke pity from others, or vice versa as it shall be exalted, cursing the cause of their problems, just to get attention.But in fact he did not want to change and does not want to he did not say in words. So before you give someone advice or try to solve other people's problems, be sure to note whether a person wants something changed, or is it only in words. If you want to, do everything in your power to help. If a person wants to change only en words, in no case, did not even go into his problems, he likes to subconsciously such a situation, he subconsciously does not want to change it or do not know what he wants.

And if you change something in his life instead of him, even just to give advice, you can still turn out to be guilty and bad, or it will be just a parasite on you at any more or less obstacle in his life will be waiting for you allow all or it will begin to pity, and if one day you get tired of such a relationship and will not solve his problems, you become his enemy, and fall on your head is not a curse.

Good rule of thumb should help only those who really need this and really wants to change his life.
So look for the actions of man. Anyone who wants to really change lives, change itself, to solve some of his problems, he will not complain all the time, he will seek advice, not sympathy. And it all councils will be applied in practice, and not to forget as soon as it was uttered, and the next time he will never raise the same topic for your issue, if it really applies your advice into practice.

If a person wants to change everything just in words, then do not spread, do not take everything to heart, and do not try to give advice, but better not even go into his complaint, on the contrary, even an internal step back, otherwise it just you at least " wear out all his strength soul. "

Complaining all the time blaming yourself or the person himself is a problem, without even realizing it, just to be kept on edge, or depressed or in a permanent painful, or all the time with a broken heart, etc. He no longer thinks in a different life, he does not believe that someone can be happy, he does not believe in love, etc., that he would not talk about high and spiritual.

Gradually he begins to lead a parasitic life. This may for example be expressed simply in the energy vampirism (application for real or contrived problems or troubles, talk about illnesses - from energy intake sympathize with) empty talk, especially if the person tries to make sure you tell him to react emotionally - is always the devastation of the soul (run by such people!), and the worst thing is throwing out their problems one person to another, then for a time in one after another becoming a better life, and the same who had shown sympathy or emotions get in the "gift" set of challenges or troubles or unrequited love for a certain period of his life. But because our whole life is based on the principle of cause - effect, then shift some of one's responsibilities their problems to another life is complicated even further, and in order for someone to throw it all is resolved as a by itself.

Therefore, communicating, understand the people sympathize with them but not skip through all your soul. Otherwise, you risk yourself without realizing it take care of all his problems. If this is done, do not be surprised subsequent misfortunes in his life. If this happens, try to understand the cause and in the future not to repeat its mistakes, try to keep in mind if the distance from that person.Once again: if the person is who just saw you all the time only talks about their problems, unhappiness or disease, etc. - this is not a friend, an enemy, so think and whether you need a "friend." But do not confuse that happen and have real friends, problems, and they need to stretch out a helping hand in difficult situations. See how people talk about their problems, how he behaves in this situation, if he wants to solve them in actions, not words, and he needed advice, or you can help him with something, never refuse, try to help - follow the principle "treat another person as you'd like them to treat you."

If all this is only in words, he wants to solve, then flee from such a person does not even listen, and do not give advice. You out there still do not hear, you just use as a spectator, as a "cushion, where you can complain," or as "food." This man just important to just be in the role of victim, or vice versa pat yourself due to the fact that someone is abusing it. At least it would be empty talk, and can catch a "dark streak".

If you do not want to lose friends and be alone if you do not want to feel miserable, is not understood, then do not complain all the time, do not do in crowded self-torture and throws his problems on others. Always run from the vampires and donors to extend ... On the contrary, strive to be positive and loving, and you will love, and you bypass all the hardships of a party!

Learn to love and forgive. Communicate with the loving, happy and strive to be loving yourself, and you will see how your life will change for the better you will become happy and successful. And you'll never lonely man capable of love, always let someone love him and always stretch around.
We all make mistakes in life, for that it was created, but we must learn to correct them, to make the experience of traversed situations, relationships, and to again repeat their same mistakes. But it's better to try to learn from the mistakes of others, then you will be much easier in life.

A man capable of love is always easy to know he is happy and lucky in life, with this to anything not specifically seek to attain or achieve, it is simply life itself, "makes him such gifts" for his ability to love and be happy in spite of what is not. So do not forget we are the builders of their lives and their happiness.

"Learning to Love", but rather to reveal itself in this capacity can each, as each person is endowed with the ability to love from birth, just not everyone uses it in his life. In order to reveal himself in this capacity, start with a simple: just try to relate positively to all the events and people, to smile more, even from any difficult situation, always try to see something positive and make sure of her experience and apply it in practice to precisely such critical situations do not recur.

Pay attention to good events, but not bad for his friends rejoice in their success, do not gloat and do not discuss, avoid the "empty" conversations and situations. Be tolerant of other people's actions, do not forget you the same rights as everyone around. Try to understand the man that he did not, for that get in his place, and do not consider the situation from his position. And be sure to try to see in every person and all around that something good and enjoy it heartily. Rejoice every passing day, enjoy the sun, rejoice over their children, etc.

Accumulate in the heart of his positive attitude to everything and everyone, and gradually you will discover the ability to love, and love in your heart will be constant.
Love and you will love! Understand and you will understand! Farewell, and you will forgive! Let's take a chance by his neighbor and your life will be gracious!